Tuesday, July 17, 2012

TMI Tuesday: Daring

TMI Tuesday: Daring - What are your 50 shades?

1. I enjoy the idea that my partner wants to inflict pain on me that:
a. makes me curious
b. is titillating and sexually arousing
c. that leaves me screaming and/or crying because that’s the way I like it

A & B - I'm still exploring the idea of mixing a little pain with pleasure because I am curious.  Some amount of pain has been good so far, but only on certain erogenous parts of my body and only in limited amounts. And, lets not forget that it also needs to be intentional.  Unintentional pain ie: my hips hurt, he's pushing all of his weight on my arm too much without noticing...that sort of pain makes me cry wolf!

2. Do you like being forced to dress or act in a way that is humiliating? If yes, please describe. If no, why not?
I do not enjoy humiliation acts or dress, No.  
I do love being forced to dress sexy ;)  Neo loves to dress me up whether its for dinner or sex and that's become something I really enjoy now. I have some girlfriends that make fun that he "dresses" me, but he has better taste than me (sees me differently than I see myself) and I really think they are just jealous.  LMAO!

3. Do you like seeing bruises, scars, or marks that were caused during sex on either you or your partner? What kind of marks?

I don't enjoy pain that leaves marks.  The only thing I don't mind is a hickey that is well hidden, but even getting one of those has never been something I liked.  
Neo does like to be bitten, but I haven't figured out how to leave a good mark on him...yet!

4. Would you like to be forced to do sexual things that you don’t necessarily like to do? Yes or No.

You're going to make me admit something here aren't you....  Ok, yes.  I do and I have explored this a tiny bit lately. It is a bit of a mindfuck though...being forced when it is actually consensual.  Hmmm... the mind is strong. 

5. Do you want to be forced to watch your lover with someone else? Yes, No or It depends.

Oh hell no.  If he's with someone else it had better be because I am there and said Yes!  And I would not want him to be "forced" to watch me either. 

6. What dirty (sometimes inappropriate) things do you like to say to your sexual partner?
We role play that we are other people...sometimes that's hot. I ask him if he likes watching me with another man... 

Bonus: Finish this statement: I like being powerful in bed because __________ .
If I feel powerful it is because I have seen that look in his eyes that I put there. 


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  1. Good answers. Roleplaying is so much fun and a good way to explore. And, I agree the hips hurting and all of someone's weight on me will make me cry "Uncle!" super fast. LOL! Happy Tuesday!

  2. I've never forced Jill to dress sexy (generally I don't have to), and while I tell her what I would like her to wear, it didn't really occur to me that I see her better than she sees herself. At least, not until I read your answer to #2. That makes total sense. I see her more than she sees herself, so it is fitting that I have a say.

    Excellent answer to #5. We feel the same way. And your bonus answer was really hot.