Tuesday, June 12, 2012

TMI Tuesday: Think Kink! June 5 (belated)

Hello and welcome back to TMI Tuesday with Nastassja :)  I'm going back a week since I haven't been keeping up lately.

1. What is the kinkiest thing about you, either mentally or physically?
I don't think I have found the kinkiest thing about me yet, but so far I would say...Mentally: I like to be in the submissive frame of mind, yielding to everything he wants.  Physically: I love to be tied up and used up. I enjoy a little pain with my pleasure and lots of dirty talk. 

2. Do you have any fetishes? If so, what are they?
In the true definition of the word, "a non-sexual object whose presence is required for sexual arousal or climax" - No, I do not.  But, if Neo were to develop a foot fetish I would be all for that!  I love my feet played with...me love you long time.  I could however get into some WOOKIEE fetish.  Am I right?

3. Have you ever been spanked? Did you enjoy it?  Tell us more...
Yes, and I love it when done right.  I don't like it too hard or too much (my definition of it...which Neo has learned perfectly). I want to be red, but not marked or bruised. For me I enjoy more the surprise of it and not knowing when it will happen than taking an actual beating repeatedly. Over the knee spanking is fun, but we haven't explored a lot of that as far as me being punished and put over his knee.  I end up laughing...which is also fun. 
I also love pussy spanking and a good strong one on the ass when he's behind me doggie style.  YOWCH!

4. Have you been tied up, or tied someone else up? Did you use rope or restraints?
Yes, he ties me up with a lovely, soft rope and also with restraints that he loops the rope through.  He winds the rope around objects in our room and uses it like a pulley system.  He's very talented and I would like some more now please!  
I am going to tie him up soon and will report back ;)  He wants it, bad.
We have a spreader bar a friend made for us, but haven't used it yet...stay tuned.
My rope

5. Would you classify yourself as more dominant, submissive, a switch or entirely vanilla?
Probably a switch because I can do both and when the moment strikes I can be very dominant.  It was the first "kinky" thing I remember doing...being dominant for my man.  I recently discovered I really LOVE being submissive and I think because it is new I want to do that more right now.

6. What's the kinkiest thing you've ever done?
That's hard to say...I guess looking at it from the point of view "What thing would I not want to confess to my vanilla friends?"  That would probably be DP (both- double pussy and one in each).  I have experienced double penetration with Neo and a dildo and I would like to explore this further...  Yes.  

7. Have you been to a BDSM club? What was it like? If not, would you ever go to one?
No, I haven't and I'm not sure if I would want to.  If I could feel safe just to watch for my first visit, then yes I'd go and see what was a turn on for me and what wasn't.  

8. What's your favorite fetish item or implement?
Rope and our flogger.  They both can be soft and harsh.  I love the two extremes. 

9. Favorite kinky clothing material?
I love the feel of that faux leather that's stretchy.  I'm not sure what it is.  It's black and shiny and looks good on a body.

10. Thigh boots - love 'em or hate 'em?
I could love them if I ever found a pair to fit me.  It's not a priority though.  I've kinda given up on them and gone to thigh high stockings instead. 

11. If you're kinky, who knows about it?  Do you tell people or is it a closely guarded secret?
Two couples that are our best friends know.  We all talk about our kinks.  It's fun conversation!  The six of us are going on a cruise in 9 days...THAT should be interesting ! Couple 1 are open (to our group) swingers  and Couple 2 are not swingers, but have some fantastic stories!

12. What are your personal limits?
No breaking the skin or leaving marks such as bruises.  Neo likes to leave hickeys on me lately and I've been ok with that.  I'm not into shame and humiliation and all that goes with it.  Choking is ok, but not if I can't breath for more than a few seconds. 
I'm still learning my limits, which can be quite a challenge.  Sometimes it brings out your childhood demons. 

13. What's your safeword and why did you choose that one?
We use two. Yellow, meaning: that's not going to be good if you keep doing that, but don't worry I'm OK.  And Red, meaning: stop immediately and regroup! 
We tried using just one word but it didn't work for us because I needed that middle ground.  We are testing out things that can be painful, but I enjoy some of that pain.  So, Neo needed a better understanding of what was going on with me.  In the past, whenever I would make "any" noise (or even gave a look) that could be even be considered close to painful he would back off and flinch, scared that the entire evening could be ruined.  Not so anymore. 

14. Which fetishes do you just really not get?
Probably the diaper thing and anything having to do with poo.  I don't feel I have to "get" it though...as long as you're not harming others then go for it. 
This I don't get. Where can we get one?

Bonus: Complete this sentence:  To me, Fetish, Kink, and BDSM means...Exploring the possibilities.

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  1. We're very impressed by your correct spelling of "Wookiee". Sorry, is our geek showing? :)

    Generally speaking the extent of our spanking is me giving Jill a spank on the ass during doggy style. I'm pretty sure we've never done any over-the-knee spanking. I'm pretty sure Jill doesn't like spanking enough for it to be its own thing, i.e. not a part of intercourse.

    DP is for us - Jill especially - one of those things that turns up in our fantasies, but we question whether it would ever happen. This is due less to our boundaries, which are still evolving, and more because we question whether we could ever make it happen physically. In our fantasies it's pretty hot. In reality we picture ourselves getting frustrated, then laughing about it, then moving on to something else.

    We can't imagine a BDSM club wherein you would be compelled to participate during your first visit. When we went to ours, the atmosphere was very easygoing, and despite our relative lack of interest in BDSM we had a great time just watching.

    We love thigh boots, but there's much to be said in favor of thigh high stockings. We'd love to see you in a pair sometime.

    I tend to leave hickeys on Jill. I don't ever do it intentionally, though. She's just so hot that I get swept up and next thing you know she's wearing turtlenecks in July.


    1. Yeah, I agree DP seems like it would be physically awkward with newbies and then I would certainly laugh. I laugh a lot.

      I used to really get mad if he put a hickey on my neck, but I have one right now and it's ok. It's not huge and purple, just a little red. I'm not into biting, so they hurt a little too much for the amount of time it takes to really make a big one. I would prefer he left them lower than my clothing neckline.

  2. Haha Wookiee fetish, interesting. Somehow I could see myself diggin' that too! Also liked hearing your method for using safe words. We don't have any (YET), so it's always interesting to read.

    1. A Wookiee would be so soft and cuddly...and I like that sound he makes. (Please not to be confused with a furry, but maybe getting close to that territory LOL!)

      I love reading new things from others, too.
      Thanks for the comment O&J! You guys rock :)

  3. I LOVE the safewords and the idea of having two of them. I think that's super smart and a great plan; we might need to incorporate them.

    I'm very intrigued by your description of the pulley system with ropes... I think we need some pictures of it in action!

  4. Thanks Bi! I will work on getting those pics for you. ;)